Difficult Dialogues and Emotional Expression in Audre Lorde’s Life and Work

Audre Lorde is such a breathtaking poet whose values reign on love, intimacy and power. Her works of literature exemplify her strong voice, and intimate encounters with the hardships she has experienced as a black lesbian warrior of injustice. In my college career, I took a class which explored Audre Lorde and her powerful literature and I personally learned a multitude of valuable lessons in this class, but the lesson that weighs heavily on my mind is the power that Audre Lorde encourages others to have difficult conversations about injustices in a healthy way. As a straight white cis man, learning about the injustices many minority cultures face is often a difficult subject to encounter being that I am aware of my privilege which leads to an overwhelming sense of guilt for my predecessors. After being in this class, I understand now that our society has not been taught how to have such vulnerable and intimate conversations, and I think plenty of Lorde’s works can be utilized to encourage people to speak their truths and engage in sensitive conversations in a healthy way. 

In Lorde’s text, “Poet As Teacher – Human As Poet – Teacher As Human” she delves into the idea that in order to encourage a healthy learning environment or exchange of thought between humans, she must be as authentic and true to herself with her students as possible in order for her students to feel comfortable. Lorde writes, “I hope I have not lost you nor frightened you merely because I am speaking of the intimate exchange that takes place when true learning — teaching –occurs, of feeling myself and the perception of and reaction to the feelings of other human beings.” This quote reveals a lot more than meets the eye. Firstly, Lorde understands that people are going to feel “frightened” by the “intimate exchange” of a teacher to student. Typically a classroom would not be referred to as an intimate exchange, Lorde constantly challenges preconceived notions, so it is no surprise she opens up the realm of idea within a classroom setting. I’d like to delve into this thought for a little bit. I often wonder, “how do some people live life so plainly and happily while there is so much negativity surrounding them?” I’ve made conclusions that these people are either shallow minded, and unable to process the reality that sometimes life isn’t going to be what they picture. I’ve also concluded that some people enjoy being oblivious to the emotions and feelings of others, whether it be merely because they don’t understand or can’t relate, or that they cannot express their emotions due to some sort of traumatic experience they’ve faced. With this in mind, I’ve learned that specific learning environments actually encourage people who are typically distant to engage in sensitive subjects such as race, gender, and sexuality. ENG430 at SUNY Cortland with Dr. Savonick was this learning environment that encouraged my thought. This is still a concept that I think about from time to time and Lorde alleviates my confusion with her work. 

To continue with the quote from above, Lorde writes, “Because of course we all must realize that it is this exchange which is the most strongly prohibited, or discouraged human exercise of our time.” That is such a powerful claim for her to make, yet I completely agree. This exchange of intimacy can make some people feel uncertain or uneasy. When some people hear the word intimacy, some may instantly think of it with sexual connotations, and while that is one factor of intimacy, it isn’t the end all, be all definition. The term “intimate” as defined by Merriam Webster is “marked by a warm friendship developing through long association” this definition of intimacy is empowering, for it isn’t just something that it made up on the spot; rather, it is something that must be developed or built upon. Our society today is built on lacking emotions and presenting a rather stoic forefront as an illusion to the thought inside our heads. Society has proven over and over again that the issue with race, gender, and a multitude of other identities is that harsh conversations make people uncomfortable, so they are ignored. Being uncomfortable is never something enjoyable, but people need to learn to embrace feeling uncomfortable in order to help combat injustices.

In the era of social media, there is a facade placed on most people’s identity. Platforms like Instagram were created to enable people to explore their identity, but in fact it actually forecloses people from self expression. People are often afraid to post a picture that won’t receive a high number of likes, or fear what others may think of them once making the post, so they’ll post pictures that are trendy or well favored. This causes people to fake their true identity and succumb to the views society holds. Society has ingrained into the minds of people that being uncomfortable is a bad feeling, and while sometimes it is, most times feeling uncomfortable is where the most personal growth can begin. It’s like that common cliche “life starts outside your comfort zone”. 

People today constantly feel like they can’t express their emotions or true self because feeling such strong emotions or not following the status quo is viewed as a trait of someone who is unstable or strange. Lorde disputes this in her work, “The Use of Anger”. While this text is discussing how to combat racism with anger, I think there is a broader theme she touches upon. Lorde writes, “ I speak out of a direct and particular anger at a particular academic conference , and a white woman comes up and says, ‘Tell me how you feel but don’t say it too harshly or I cannot hear you.’ But is it my manner that keeps her from hearing, or the message that her life may change?” This quote is super powerful, for Lorde has every right to be angry and use her emotions to combat injustice, yet society, or in this case, the white woman implies an angry tone to an inability to control her emotions. Audre Lorde should not have to control her emotions while coming face to face with injustice! She is literally teaching her students and readers all throughout the world that their feelings are validated and that their circumstances could alter the society and change the notion that emotions are a sign of weakness. 

Lorde is very powerful. She is unapologetically herself, and wants each and every person to feel comfortable enough to express what they feel. Society has created social constructs that Lorde constantly tries to break down. Especially when it comes to injustice, every single person should raise their voices and combat the racist, sexist, homophobic society we live in. While speaking out, people should recall their privileges and remember that even though some cases are more difficult to discuss, they are still important to speak about. While she speaks on how to interpret injustices, we as a society can learn how to discuss our feelings in a time like today. We as people can grow and encourage others to speak their truths even if it’s uncomfortable.

Works Cited

Lorde, Audre. “Poet As Teacher – Human As Poet – Teacher As Human.”

Lorde, Audre. The Uses of Anger. academicworks.cuny.edu.

Nature and Lesbian Culture through Audre Lorde’s “Love Poem”

Audre Lorde is an extremely progressive poet for her time. Her poem “Love Poem” really reflects her own personal beliefs and culture unapologetically. This particular poem discusses a speaker’s (presumably Lorde herself) lesbian encounter with another woman in an extremely poetic and a not so subliminal way. She does so, through the usage of nature and symbolizing that to a woman’s body in addition to descriptive language.

Firstly, it is important to point out how her initial line begins with a command, “Speak earth and bless me with what is richest” (line 1). This command is very important because it gives characterization of the speaker. By commanding the earth to speak and bless her, she is fully confident in who she is and what type of power she possesses. From here, the poem continues with extremely descriptive landscapes symbols to reflect the speaker’s body. The poem reads, “rigid as mountains // spread over a valley // carved out by the mouth of rain” (3-5). The use of the terms “mountains”, and “valley” can quite literally be synonymous with the female anatomy of breasts and genitalia which is exactly what the poet intended. These lines are purposeful, for they are easing the reader into the not so subtle next stanza.

The poem then continues in stanza two using such extremely graphic language that is apparent to connecting the words, to her sexual encounter with another female. The first line of stanza two, “And I knew when I entered her…” strictly discusses penetration. This is very forward for any poet at this time, especially being that it describes lesbian culture in a time where that was shamed and frowned upon. The speaker continues on to use more naturalistic terms to symbolize the woman’s body. She uses terms such as, “forests hollow” and “honey flowed” (7,9). The forests reflects the female genitalia; this is the second time in this poem that a vagina is symbolized. “Honey flowed” reflects vaginal discharge during sexual interactions. The use of natural landscapes is beautifully done by Lorde, for this sets up her argument that being a lesbian is innate. This was absolutely uncommon during these times and she is strong enough to use her voice to refute that through her poetry.

From this point in the poem and onward, the speaker feels she has eased her way into this  content that she wants to discuss, so she writes this in a very blunt way. This makes this poem reflect an erotica poem. She uses phrases such as, “impaled on a lance of tongues // on the tips of her breast on her navel // and my breath // howling into her entrances” (11-14). There are no symbols in this section of the poem, it is strictly a description. 

These symbols being present through the introduction of the poem and then lacking anything other than straight up description towards the end, was extremely strategic of Lorde. She, as people know, was utterly progressive and craves society to feel comfortable in a discussion such as lesbian culture. She was smart though because if someone of her time began reading the poem and read extremely graphic and erotic phrases in the beginning, they would turn a blind eye to it and disgustfully tarnish her work. Lorde does not see these topics as controversial, yet is aware the society she’s surrounded by would be against something of the sort. 

It is also important to note that this poem has two publishing dates; one in 1973 and another in 1975. This could mean that the poem was rejected initially by publishers for its crude content. Lorde could have accepted defeat and not attempt to publish it again, but instead she tried again to publish it two years later. This shows Lorde’s character. She feels that advocacy and voicing an opinion no matter how unpopular it is, is important for a society to grow and flourish.

  1. How different do you think the reactions of this poem would be if it were published in 2020?
  2. What other word choices/symbols in this poem do you feel have strong relevance on the topic of LGBTQ+ literature?

Hi guys, I’m Mikey

Hey everyone! My name is Michael Marinelli, but being that there are TOO MANY Michaels, I go by Mikey. A little bit about myself is that I am a Senior here at Cortland with a major in English. In my time here at Cortland, I have been President of the Acappella Club, Vice President of Theta Chi Fraternity. My freshman year, I studied abroad in India for 5 months which was absolutely life altering. In addition to all of those things about myself, I have two awesome pups back at home; a Pitbull named Rex and a Dachshund named Marley. Super excited to be apart of this awesome class with all of you! 🙂

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